This blog is about my life, a 31 yr old filly; working in the city, balancing her career, passion for horses, dogs, and the life they deserve. Following my dreams, and getting there takes a lot of patience and a sense of humour. This is my take on life, and the amazing and stupid things in it.

Sunday, October 31, 2010

Happy Hallowe'en!

 Happy Hallowe'en everyone! 

 Hallowe'en is my all time favorite time of the year.  This year I decided to dress up as one of favorite animals and fashion statements - the zebra!  I got some ideas for hair and makeup off you tube, and ordered a zebra unitard of eBay.   I used real horseh air for the tail, and it came together nicely.  Hope everyone had a safe and fun Hallowe'en with lots of goodies.




Broo had to join in on the Zebra look too.

Thursday, October 28, 2010

Pssssst Did You Hear?? Say What!

You know the name of the game - gossip. There is a reason for high school - and it's not education. High school is a 4 year hiatus for developing social skills at a time when you are too old to play with clay and blocks - but too stupid to learn the real things you learn at University or college. One of the greatest skills I would hope one achieves at high school is how to tolerate, and evaluate, gossip.

I'm not going to lie, I love my fair share of gossip here and there. I like to think it's harmless gossip between myself and trusted friends. "Oh my god, did you like, see what Psycho Sally put as her Facebook status?" "I know, she is like, totally, attention seeker" (complete with valley girl accent and gum smacking). I however, did learn over my time on earth so far that gossip can spread like wildfire, hurt people, and come back to give you a swift kick in the ass. You can never be sure just what you are saying to who. You can never be sure who to trust with your opinions and judgements, so sometimes it's just better to keep your opinion to yourself.

It reminds me of my first day of OAC (grade 13) Geometry. I was ahead 2 years in math so I didn't really know any of the people in my classes, most of them were super smart super nerds and didn't attend the parties I found myself at most weekends. I took my seat beside this one guy Jim. Jim thought the greatest way to break the ice and become my friend would be to tell me a joke. Normally, under regular circumstances I might think this was the perfect tactic. Unfortunately for Jim, he didn't use his social skills diary and check the rules before he blurted out his joke. *Warning* This joke may offend some readers* I can't remember the lead up to the joke, but Jim blurts out; "why did God invent AIDS?"......"to kill all the gay people!", followed by "ahahah". I just sat there and stared at him. I get it, he was *joking*. He doesn't really think that, or hate gay people, he just thought it was a funny (albeit tasteless) joke. What Jim didn't know was that I had an uncle who was gay, and tragically, died of AIDS (what are the chances right?). I proceeded to share this information with Jim. I will never forget the look on his face. That was the moment Jim learned that you should know and evaluate your audience.

For the record, Jim and I did become great friends after that first meeting, but I always think of that before I open my mouth when a controversial subject is brought up. I am sort of going off topic here but I think it's a good example of how people just blab without thinking. The whole point of this post was to rant about the gossiping that has been happening about my new marriage.

I was talking to my soon to be ex brother in law the other night and he had mentioned how a lot of people have been coming up to him at the gym and asking him if I really got married. I live in a small town which I left years ago, and now that I am back I try to hide my presence to anyone but my friends - because we all know small towns are notorious for gossip and nosey neighbour behaviour! Anyways, I guess he is getting all sorts of questions from; who my husband is, where we met, how long we have been together....to the expected comments of; it will never last, like she will stay married long, and even "there's no way that guy will ever like horses!" For real, someone actually said that. Ummm hello...wtf?? You don't know anything about my man, yet you know there's no way he will like horses and I will leave him because of that? Good grief. I'm 27 not 7. I have dated enough to know what it feels like to have found the right man.

Now let's not forget the most popular comment/question; "Are you/is she pregnant?". Umm hello?!?! Do you even know me at ALL?!?! I would NEVER get married just because I was pregnant. All of my friends know that. That is not a reason to get married in my eyes, and when people ask that it just shows who they are to me and I wonder why they even bother caring. I find it extremely insulting and wonder where these peoples social skills are. I have even had people say that they didn't even know I had a boyfriend. Well, I have news for you, it wasn't a secret. If you didn't know, then we aren't the close friends you think we are. Why are you surprised you didn't know? Because I didn't flaunt it in everyones faces for the last few months?

The thing that I just don't get about these people....is why not just ask me? Most of them I have on Facebook or they are friends of friends and could easily shoot me a message. Why must you ask my brother in law. Is it because you don't want me to know you have some sort of unexplainable interest in my life? Is it because you want to not worry about me hearing your judgemental comments? Is it because you secretly want my world to fall apart and don't want to have to be fake to me? Why....is my only question.

There is , however, something great that happens when you act of out the ordinary or expected. You learn who people really are. People who I have not spoken to in some time, or people I do not know that well have given me well wishes, encouragement, and support in our marriage. Then there are the people who I have been friends with for years who have not offered any well wishes, and just claimed they are shocked, and happy if "you're happy". One of my friends I have known forEVER just said - "why?". I didn't even justify that with an answer. It is as if people can not accept anything that does not fit into their cookie cutter idea of how a relationship comes together.

I have news for these people; I am happy. I am also happy to answer any questions you nosies may have (people who know me, not my readers although happy to answer yours too). And one last thing....he DOES like horses. So there.



Monday, October 25, 2010

Sunday Eventing Photo Share

Fandango at Canterdown Pre-Entry August 2009. He's come a long way from this :

Saturday, October 23, 2010

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Friday, October 22, 2010

TGIF Baby

I do not blog much about my profession, for a few reasons. Firstly, my job does not define me and I do not like to be defined by my job. It is a great job with decent pay, great hours, benefits, keeps me busy and is never boring, however...there are times I really, really hate my job. It is not anything I see myself doing for a long stretch of time, it is not my passion. I also don't like to put too much online, since, well obviously anyone can see it...and I don't need my words coming back to haunt me anytime soon.


Let me tell you another thing about my profession; my position makes me pretty much the second most hated person out there, right below the Government. I am an Insurance broker. What makes us so hated?? Well, people have no choice but to insure (in Canada at least). It is the law you must have insurance to drive a vehicle and to have a mortgage. The only time our clients call is to inquire about rate increases, or when they are involved in a claim and are high stress and upset. This makes for a magical work environment (sarcasm? Yes).


Don't get me wrong, I do like my job, I just don't think I can stretch that into love. What I find the hardest about my job is when things are out of my hands. Premiums, underwriting rules, legalities. All things that can have me explaining myself 20 times over and still having a client staring at me expecting me to "do" something. How many times do I have to say, "I'm sorry, there is nothing more we can do"? Then, the client proceeds to tell me in the many colourful words I hear daily, how crap insurance is, how bad the way insurance works is, and how I am personally robbing the people and making them live beyond their means. Thanks, have a great weekend too.

One day, we had a girl in for her first few days of training for reception and as a client was leaving he said to her "why not choose a more honorable profession, like prostitution?". Can you believe this?!? Because we are a customer service oriented company we can not swiftly turn around and tell this gentleman to go f*uck himself. No, we have to smile and say, "Have a great day!". The only joy we get is marking his file with our trademark "crap client" secret marking on the computer system so we know he's bad news when he comes in. OOooo, the satisfaction.

In all honesty, I think I find my job very frustrating at times because I do genuinely try my hardest to help all of my clients, regardless of what they believe or how horrible they have been to me in the past. My job is very thankless and if I didn't work with such great people, I'm not sure I would have lasted as long as I do. I will continue to go to work with a smile every day, and make sure my clients are getting the best coverage for as long as I am a broker. It pays the bills and keeps my horses fat n happy. I will continue to dream of the day when people start to realise that treating someone like crap really does get you nowhere, but bitter town.
Don't hate me because I'm an Insurance Broker.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Tim Horton's - Careful, it's Addictive

Have you ever had Tom Hortons coffee?? It's a national icon of pride here in Canada. People can't get through a day without their Timmys. Timmys is so popular, you just say the words "double double" and everyone who heard will know you meant a coffee with two sugars, two milk.

Archie is no exception to this. Here he is at the dressage barn he was boarding at in 2009. He loooves his coffee.




Notice he looks slightly more wired the more coffee he drinks :)

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

What if?



I just got home from the movies. I saw the new "Life As We Know It". If you aren't sure what it's about, the basic story line is about couple who have just had a baby. They each have a best friends and of course, they hate each other (don't worry I give anything away). The couple is killed in a car accident and in their estate and will they leave guardianship to these two singles who can't stand each other. Their lives are suddenly turned up side down with this huge responsibility, and they are forced to make a decision that will effect the rest of their lives. Their friends trusted them so immensely, they put their most important part of their lives in their hands.

I got to thinking about this scenario and my horses. I have often thought what might happen if I were killed suddenly and what would become of my boys. I am lucky in that my parents are horse people and we have a farm and the means to be able to keep extra horses if need be. I still wonder though, would they keep them? Would they give them away? Sell them? And if so, to whom? I am kind of anal about my horses and their care and who rides them. The thought of not having a say in who they would go creates great anxiety in me. I know I won't care if I'm dead, I mean how could I? Just the thought of them falling into the wrong hands really irks me. I need to get this sorted and have some guidelines for my animals if something were to happen to me.

So, what about those who do not have the benefit of having horsey relatives? A barn in their back yard? Would your family be willing to keep your horse, pay board, vet bills etc? Would they know where to turn for help in the event they needed help to sell your horse? I just think about all the horse people I know who have no family with knowledge in the horseworld. I fear people just taking the horse and throwing it into the local auction and the horse getting shipped off for meat for a measly $300. Or perhaps the horse is sold to the most innapropriate buyer and lives a miserable life because of it. I guess these are quite scary and negative thoughts, but sometimes you have to think about extremes to make sure you and your loved ones, in this case your animals, are protected.

The solution, take some time to think who you would put in guardianship of your animals if you were to lose your life suddenly. Are they knowledgeable? Trustworthy? Would they do what YOU wished and not what THEY wish? Would they be the very next best thing to you for your animal? If you have found the person who you think is fit, have a talk with them and tell them you would like them to be the guardian for your horse, dog, whatever. Talk about what you want in the event you were gone and whether they would be able to live up to it. If they are comfortable with the situation, get it in writing. The most important things need to be put in writing. If possible, legally stated on your will and testament is the best, but obviously is not always feasible for everyone. A written note with both signatures is a good start, kept on file by both parties.

It may seem depressing, or unnecessary. However, in the small and tragic chance something does happen to you, your animals will be forever grateful you took the time to think about them, and ensure their happy futures.

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Beach Season is Not Over Yet!

We took advantage of this gorgeous October weekend and met up with some friends of my moms to go for a nice Sunday hack. They knew about a private beach where they go hacking regularly and were going to let us in on their little gem of a secret spot.

Archie has only been off the property a few times for lessons, and has never hacked out in a group so this was going to be a good exercise for him to get him used to being away from home and around strange horses.

We loaded the horses up and met up at my moms friends place. They have a bunch of young Appys and Quarter Horses they were going to be taking out. Archie walked right on the trailer today, which was great. He has come a long way with getting on the trailer. He still gets nervous and sweats himself out completely on the ride though. He seems to be getting better with each trailer ride, so hopefully he will lose those nerves completely with time.




The trails on the way to the beach were fabulous. All the leaves on the ground create a beautiful sight. Not to mention those pretty spotted bums we were following. Archie finds it a bit difficult to walk at the same pace as a 15 h Quarter horse, but he tries.



Our first look as we arrive at the beach. I am so in love with this October day I could just fall off my horse and die. I musnt do that though, I must get to the beach!





I do love a good Appy bum ...



Here we navigating the first sand dune. The horses all go down and up the dunes with ease. The blue roan in the middle is 25 years old. She was such a superstar, you would never know she was such on oldie.



We're getting so close to the beach!! The waves were crashing with the wind, Archie knew something was up there, but he just didn't know what exactly. My moms horse saw the water at first and wanted nothing of it.... we will press on however. We are not quitters!



Heres my mom, happy to have made it this far with her second level dressage horse. Good job mom, I'm proud of you!




My mom and I posing for pictures. Archies lovely dried sweat from his trailer ride. He will get super grooming when he gets home.



And again. I am so lucky to share this passion with my mom. We may enjoy different disciplines, but we are working hard at making our horses more versatile so we can have more fun with them aside from competing. I think today was a great accomplishment of that.



On the way to the second private beach. The beaches go forever, how did we never know this was so close to our home!



Archie checking in to make sure he's still going the right way.



Archie and I attempting to pose for pictures....he was too excited to stand still at this point.



Time to get our feet wet....





My mom and Ace, her first time in the water..EVER! What a good girl, the DQ's would be so jealous :)




Are you kidding me?? This beach looks like the Caribbean! This is my new favorite spot...what a beautiful example of our province.



Just look how blue the water is....



On our way home....Ace being a poser.



The beautiful autumn foliage on the way back.


We made it! Archies first successful hack off the property, at the beach at that.



I love my horse.



Ace is getting told it's time to go! (not till we're done our drinks hehe)



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